What if I hate networking?
You’re definitely not alone. For a lot of people, the idea of “selling yourself” or making small talk with strangers can feel fake, draining, or just plain awkward. But considering the doors networking can open, it might be worth rethinking how you approach it.
That old cliché, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” really does play out in most career journeys. The data backs it up, too: strategic connections can significantly improve your access to roles, referrals, and real opportunities. In today’s competitive job market, we can all use a little edge.
Networking doesn’t have to mean pitching yourself to strangers. At its core, it’s about relationship building, and that can look different for everyone. It might mean reconnecting with someone you used to work with, reaching out to a friend of a friend who’s in a role you’d love to grow into, or simply showing up to learn from others in your field. No sales pitch required.
Start small, and start with intention. One message. One genuine conversation. One step at a time.
🧠 Need a little structure as you reflect on what to say or who to reach out to next?
The Networking Reflection Worksheet — included in the free Career Clarity Packet — helps you clarify your stories, goals, and conversation starters so your networking feels more grounded and intentional.
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And remember, meaningful networking isn’t about being the most charismatic person in the room. It’s about being curious, thoughtful, and open to mutual support.
If it still feels hard, I offer 1:1 coaching to help you find your version of networking — one that fits your energy, your personality, and your goals.
